“Alone, drunk, I want to come home.” The motto was one of the most repeated by thousands of women who attended demonstrations in support of the “herd” multiple rapes and is heard on any 8M. The premise is this: We women want to come home quietly, so that no man believes that he has the right to rebuke us, to follow us, to touch us, to touch us. Neither is alcohol. Coming home alone and drunk is an outcry against the widely held notion that a woman’s drunkenness or drunkenness is a legitimate strategy to approach her sexually.
It is only an idea that the streamer El Xokas, which is followed by almost a million people, was released without complexes in one of the last live broadcasts. Xoks told how, when they went out, his friends stayed awake and approached the drunken girls, flirting and “picking up tall girls.” “Aunt, who mainly sees four of you, looks at you seven times because she was stoned. Then it’s much easier. Besides, you are calm, you measure your words perfectly … sorry! (…) Jandaba was already drinking some juices. “She was always out with a girl.
“It’s an idea to go hunting,” said Marit Pereira, of the Federation of Sexual and Gender-Based Victims Assistance Associations (Famuvi). The idea of hunting in which the stereotype refers to men as unbridled predators who want to use any tactics and women as objects to be careful. “A woman is conceived as a simple object that is manipulated the way you want it to be, and if she is drunk, then it is better because it is easier to manipulate. It is a very plausible strategy for a long time to come,” she continues.
El Xokas anecdote, his friends’ strategies and the likes of others and spreading it for the purpose of “inviting drinks” to try to have sex or take advantage of the fact that a woman is drunk or addicted. – called the culture of rape. “This case very well reflects the fabric of this culture of rape. It is a combination of thoughts, beliefs and attitudes that promotes and justifies male sexual violence against women,” explains Barbara Tardon, an expert on sexual violence. If this culture is maintained and sustained, it is precisely because, as in this case, many of these behaviors are normalized and even go unnoticed.
The objectivity of a woman’s body, the use of feminine language, the mockery of violence and its seriousness, or the eroticization of aggression itself are factors that reinforce this culture of rape and which are also found in this case. “And the central element that emerges in this case is the abuse and lack of compassion for women. I’m talking about the dehumanization of women, understood as objects of use to satisfy sexual power and pleasure,” Tardon adds.
The experience of experts and associations allows us to know that in addition, when a woman has suffered some abuse or aggression and she voluntarily drank or took drugs, the crime becomes even more intense. “The feeling of guilt is growing, I see it from my daily work with the victims. Many people are still going to question that if they were drunk, maybe they deserved what happened to them is a burden of guilt because they continue to think so. “We support this situation,” said Marit Pereira. The sense of guilt reaches such a level that in most cases women do not write complaints, she says, because they feel responsible for what happened to them “and end up locked in a house between four walls”.
“Alcohol has always been an excellent excuse for the perpetrators to go unpunished and for women to be held accountable for their sexual abuse,” said Barbara Tardon, an expert. And remember: “Alcohol is never responsible, but always the aggressor who decides to commit this act.”
Source: El Diario
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